Dad, We Never Get To Hear You Pray!

Last night we were sitting around the dinner table ready enjoy the bounty that my beautiful wife had provided for us to feast upon, when it came time for me to ask which one of the boys wanted to lead the blessing. Since I have become a parent I have thought it very important to allow the children as much of an opportunity to pray as possible. We usually ask them to pray on the way to school and them at meal time and we remind them to say the prayer before bed time. But yesterday something very profound happened, after I asked who wanted to lead the prayer , both boys said “You dad!” At first my reaction was why don’t they want to lead the prayer; were they embarrassed, did they not want to thank God for their food. But then one of the boys said “dad we never get to hear you pray.” Had I been so caught up in providing them with an opportunity to pray that I had neglected the most important part of teaching my children to pray, my example. We have all noticed how children lead those form prayers “God is great God is good…” and the such like and I understand that they use those terms because that is what they hear. It got me to thinking i have never heard my children hear any of the phrases that I use when I pray. Maybe that was due to the fact that they haven’t heard me pray that much. In my attempt to give them the opportunity to lead, I was starving them from an education on how to pray. I don’t want my children to perceive prayer as a set form of words or incantation just to get it done, I want them to understand that prayer is a conversation with the Almighty. In Luke one of Jesus’ disciples had a very poignant request

Now Jesus was praying in a certain place, and when he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.”
-Luke 11:1

Was my son’s request for me to pray some sort of the same kind of request? Whether it was or not or maybe I was reading to much into something so simple, I vowed to myself that my children would hear more of their father’s prayers. We are all used to form prayers we hear led in public, but we need to make sure we allow our children to experience something other than our public prayers…our own! I love the church! Matt
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April 30, 2013 · 7:54 pm

Loving the Law of the Lord

 ”He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.”    Psalm 1.3

The one who studies the “law of the Lord” David says is like this tree.  This is our new wall decoration at Woodlawn as you enter the Children’s Educational wing of the building.  Teachers let us all make sure we teach these children to love God’s Word.   It is an awesome responsibility and not one to be taken lightly.  I pray for you often that you study yourself so that you may be able to educate these children in the “law of the Lord”.  There truly is no greater joy than to know that our children are walking in the Truth (3 John 4)

I love this Church! MattImage

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Reflections from the Skatecenter

ImageYesterday was my daughter’s 12th birthday party and the above picture was taken at the party.  Of all the places that she had at her disposal to have the party (activity building at church, basement, school), she chose the Skate Center!  ”Really, is that place is still open?” was my first thought!  Then my immediate next thought was me in my heyday wearing the parachute pants, the spiked wristband, with a leopard print bandanna on my head rocking out to Joan Jett singing “I love Rock-n-Roll….” (But I digress…).  So here we are at the Skate center and believe it or not it was oldies night so the music was the same music that I rocked (uhmm) out too.  As I watched my little girl skate with her friends, listen to her talk about boys and make those group trips to the bathroom; it really hit me…she isn’t a little girl anymore!  Where did all the time go?  Where is that little girl who used to sing “pat you Bible” with Mrs. Fancy (her real name was Mrs. Nancy) in the nursery class at Jackson Heights?  Where is my little girl who used to have all that curly hair and chubby cheeks?  Where is my little girl whose world used to revolve around Barney, Tigee her stuffed tiger, and a sippy cup full of apple juice.  Even though we hear it all the time, we get so caught up in our selves that we forget; time really does fly!  I couldn’t help but remind myself of what Paul said:
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.” -Ephesians 5:15-16  
The days are evil because they try to distract us off of what is important to us. The most important thing in our lives should be our relationship with God and family.   So I did just that, I mad the best use of my time and I took this picture.  Lord willing, reflections like this will come more often; like when she goes on her first date, or when I give her away to the man or her dreams, or when she is able to experience the same feelings with her children.  Today, I pray that I never take my little girl, my handsome boys or even my beautiful wife for granted!  God has shared these incredible lives with me so I want to make the best use of my time with them!  I pray that one day we will all share an eternity together with the One who gave us this amazing opportunity called life.  I pray that I will do my best to be that force for good in their life and illustrate to them Jesus through my actions.  Lord grant me these wishes, but if not your will be done. I love the church, I love my family, in Christ’s name Amen.  Image  
 
 

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RULES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE

Recently my wife shared something she picked up from Godlywoman.com.  The title is “Rules for a Happy Marriage” and they are wonderful.  I will have to admit when i first received it my thoughts were “these are great!”.  However the more I thought about it my thoughts turned to “does she think our marriage isn’t happy now?” ;) Regardless, these are wonderful; whether things are going great or not so great. Image

1.  Never both be angry at the same time.

 
2.  Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
 
3.  If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
 
4.  If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
 
5.  Never bring up mistakes of the past.
 
6.  Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
 
7.  Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
 
8.  At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your spouse.
 
9.  When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit and ask for forgiveness.
 
10.  It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking. 

 

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Pep Talk From Kid President

A friend of mine from my Youth Ministry days has discover the ultimate source of encouragement in his brother-in-law. We all have those days where we need a “pep talk”. Sometimes we need to hear it from a child before it sticks (out of the mouth of babes!).I hope this brightens your day and challenges you to “BE AWESOME”! I love the Church! Matt

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February 1, 2013 · 3:55 pm

I AM RESOLVED

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It is New Year’s Day 2013 and who would have ever thought it would have gotten here this fast.  I really do love this time of year because it gives me an opportunity to start new things off fresh.  I am one of the very few that really does love to make New Year’s Resolutions.  I guess in some weird way it gives me an opportunity to live my life the way I really want to live it, by giving me a chance to change the things that i want to change and start off brand new from day one.  Now, I did not say that I always succeed in keeping these resolutions, because many times I fail miserably, but at least I do make an attempt and every once in a while something sticks.  So this morning I want to encourage all of us to make some sort of an attempt to resolve to do some things differently with our lives.  I am not suggesting some  major unusual unrealistic things like getting your PHD, or dieting and exercising so that you can have a body like a professional athelete.   I am referring to small, more feasible things, things that are not superficial but things that will make a tremendous impact on your life and the lives of those around you.  I am providing a small list of beginners for us to all adapt.  These are only suggestions and the list is by no means exhaustive but I pray that these will encourage all of us to start the new year off right.

1.    Take the time to pray more everyday, and just when you think you have, pray some more. We can never spend enough time in prayer with our Father.

2.    Spend more time in God’s Word.  Whether in the morning, lunch or before bed make sure that you put more of an effort to study the Word of God.  I know that may seem difficult because of our busy lives, but this should be our top priority.  To make this much easier there are many apps for your phone that can help you to do this,  many of the Bible apps will even narrate the text for you to make it easier.

3.   Make an conscious effort to attend worship as much as you can.  I know that there are times when your work schedule interferes or you are sick and those are the exceptions.  I don’t mean just checking in or filling your pew, I mean to be there in body and spirit.  Take an active part by putting all of our efforts into praise and worship to God who has done so much for us.  Not only that, but do your best to get to worship early so that you have time to prepare yourself to worship and you are not stressed about things.

4.    Spend as much time as possible with your family and friends.   Life is short and we need to spend it with those we love and those that love us.  Fellowship with each other will help motivate us to accomplish the previous resolutions.

5.    Take the time to encourage someone everyday.  It could be a card, a hug, a pat of the back or even a simple “good job”.  We all get down about things and just having someone do something that encourages us, can change our entire point of view.  If you knew that by doing something that took only a few seconds of your time each day would affect someone else’s life for the better, would you do it?  Of course, you would!

Good luck Church and God bless you in your efforts as you become RESOLVED!  I love this Church!  Matt

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Preparing Our Children

                Periodically, the producers of those semi-educational networks will take an opportunity to discount something from the Scriptures.  In one of the more recent ones they seek to soften the sin of the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah by saying that their sin was simply being inhospitable.  My oldest son Carson (who has taken after his father in his passion for the historical accuracy of the Scriptures) was sitting down with his bowl of popcorn intensely watching in hopes of seeing some real “pictures” of what happened according to the Biblical account.  When the discussion took place about the nature of their sin, he quickly shouted “Dad, that is wrong!”  Intrigued on how much he actually knew about the sins of Sodom (seeing as how he is only 7 years old), I asked him what he meant.  He replied “They are saying that the sin of Sodom was that they just weren’t very nice, but the Bible says that their sin was very great.”  I wasn’t sure what he meant by being “very great”, but he was eager to show me.  He grabbed his Bible and began to look and so did I.  When I looked at Genesis 18 in God’s description to Abraham concerning Sodom guess what it said?  God and Abraham both referred to this as being “wicked”.  He knew that being “wicked” had to involve more than just “not being nice”.  I will have to admit that I was very impressed with his understanding and his desire for them to present the truth.  I began to wonder where he had picked that up.  Had I preached on it recently?  Was it recently in their Sunday school program?  Had he learned it at school in Bible class?  The truth is, I really don’t know where he picked it up and I really don’t care.  What I did learn was that he did pick it up somewhere. 

                Sometimes we discount the learning capacity of our children.  We sell them short because we don’t think they have the capacity to fully comprehend what actually occurs in the Scriptures, that it is over their head.   But the truth is that they are capable of learning and their number one source of instruction should come from us, their parents.  It got me thinking how much did he know, or did my other children comprehend these things as well.  It was then it hit me; if they can understand that, just think what they will be able to understand if I had done a better job in teaching them. Had I wasted precious moments that I could have spent in teaching them the soul saving lessons of Scriptures, when I spent more time on teaching them the difference between man to man and a zone defense?  Church, I believe we all could do a better job in the Biblical education of children.  I was so proud to know that my child knew what was Biblical and what was not, but I was also disappointed that he hadn’t heard that lesson from me. 

                Parents, it is our job, it is our duty, and it is our God ordained responsibility to make sure we take the lead on teaching our children Biblical principles.  In Deuteronomy 6, God provides for us as parents (more specifically the fathers) a model for us to have a happy and successful family in the eyes of God.  But the instructions that are given in that passage are so much more than that.  These instructions should serve as a warning to us so that we do not allow ourselves to forget what God has done for us.  The moment we allow ourselves to forget or get to the point that our children do not know, is the moment when we will be doomed to repeat our previous mistakes.  Take special not of the urgency that is mentioned in Deuteronomy 3.4-13.   The purpose of the urgency is that God knows that when things are going well for us we tend to forget the blessings that God has provided for us.  When we forget these blessings they are not as important to us, and when they are not as important to us, we don’t teach them to our children, and when we do not teach them to our children we are allowing an open door for Satan to come into our homes to educate them for us. 

                If you recall the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis 4, you have Cain bringing an offering that is not acceptable to God.  God had in some way specified what He had wanted out of Cain, yet Cain had either forgotten or decided to disregard God’s commandment.  Notice what happens when God points out the fault of Cain and gives him an opportunity to have a second chance.

  “The LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen? If you do well,                   will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire         is for you, but you must rule over it.”                                                                               Genesis 4:6-7

 

Take special note of that phrase “if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door”.  What does that mean?  It means that when we do not do what is expected of us, when we do not do well with the task that God has provided for us that sin is waiting and watch to jump on us an seize us.  We know from the rest of the story that Cain did not do well and sin did get the best of him.  It is my fear that we have allowed sin to seize us within our own homes.  Church our home should be the base of operations; it should be a safe house, a fortress of protection against the sin and the Devil, yet somewhere we have allowed ourselves to get lazy and let our guard down.  Now instead of instructing our children in the ways of the Lord, we have allowed sin to come into our homes and snuggle up on our couches and become a part of our family more than God.  Many times we assume that our children are taught all of these principles and stories at church, by their Sunday school teachers. Maybe they are, maybe our Sunday school teachers are doing a fabulous job in educating our kids, but is that enough.  Would you be comfortable if the schools only taught math and science for 1-2 hours a week or their coach only practiced with them 1-2 hours a week before the big game, chances are you wouldn’t?  So why are we that way with the Scriptures?  Shouldn’t that be our main focus?  It is the Scripture that will show us how to have eternal life, not ballgames or math class.  Parents don’t sell your kids short, they are capable of learning much more than you think they are.  You are constantly teaching them, in what? Well time will only tell.  But if you want to make sure your children are prepared for the battle over their soul, then you will not settle for their instruction at church.  Because it isn’t the church that will have to answer for my children’s knowledge of the Scriptures and their preparedness for battle against Satan, it will be ME!  I sure would hate to know that when all of life is over and judgment takes place that my children were lost because I failed them by not preparing them in the fortress of our home.  I Love this church! Matt

 

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